What is Abuse?

“The open and explicit abuse of another person. Threatening, coercing, beating, lying, berating, demeaning, chastising, insulting, humiliating, exploiting, ignoring (“silent treatment”), devaluing, unceremoniously discarding, verbal abuse, physical abuse and sexual abuse are all forms of overt abuse.”

Many of us that were raised in the Church believe that only spousal physical abuse or sexual infidelity are just causes for a separation or divorce.  This is not correct, if you are experiencing any of the above difficulties you are being abused and should seek help without reservation or delay.

If you are witnessing a child, teen, parent, friend or any other individual experiencing any difficulties mentioned in the abuse definition, then please encourage them to get help. If it is a minor, call the police or your county family services agency. Don’t ever assume someone else will get them the help they may desperately need, or that the local Bishop or Church leaders are managing it. Most likely if you have noticed it, no one else has had the courage to take the required action and it is your responsibility to be the one person that cares enough to request help.

It’s important that if you or loved one are experiencing serious issues related to any abuse, non-acceptance of sexual orientation, depression or confusion that you have appropriate resources to help you. If you have any recommendations please send them to me at ldsapology @

We are in the process of building a trusted network of professionals to add additional resources to you. We plan on updating this page regularly as we learn of therapists and others that have been helpful to our readers and community at



Child Abuse

National Hotline Crisis Counselors Available 24/7 The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) See their great website at

Family Acceptance Project LDS Brochure   The Family Acceptance Project™ is the only community research, intervention, education and policy initiative that works to decrease major health and related risks for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) youth, such as suicide, substance abuse, HIV and homelessness – in the context of their families. We use a research-based, culturally grounded approach to help ethnically, socially and religiously diverse families decrease rejection and increase support for their LGBT children.


Adult Relationship or Spousal Abuse

The National Abuse Hotline Number is: 1-800-799-7233.

Here is one great website for domestic violence no matter where you live in the United States: The National Domestic Violence Hotline website. It has great resources and suggestions. There is a help in your area section, as well as asafety planning section.



Crisis in faith and need resources and a support communities


Communities welcome Mormons from across the orthodoxy spectrum, but they are especially meaningful to those who have undergone or are undergoing a crisis or transition in their faith. Many members of Mormon Stories regional communities have experienced significant pain and distress after discovering information about LDS Church history on the internet, and many suffer feelings of isolation because they believe that speaking candidly about what they have discovered or experienced might lead to church discipline, expulsion from their ward communities, or exclusion from their families. The Mormon Stories regional communities, then, seek to alleviate pain, distress and isolation by providing safe, real-world spaces where Mormons can support and strengthen one another in communities of mutual respect, acceptance, and love as they continue to reflect on the Mormon tradition and its value in their lives.


For those that identify with the LGBT community or what the Church calls “same sex attraction”

We recommend an organization called Affirmation, here is a statement of their beliefs:

Lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender individuals from every background and situation, united in the shared experience of a spiritual and/or cultural heritage in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (LDS/Mormon).

  • We affirm that sexual orientation, identity, and expression are special gifts from God and that we are all children of loving Heavenly Parents
  • We believe that our lives and relationships can be compatible with the gospel of Jesus Christ and the Plan of Salvation, and that LGBT individuals are a special part of God’s Creation
  • We reject the concept that orientation and identity can be changed and believe that same sex relationships are entitled to the same recognition and blessings as heterosexual relationships

We are a family that consists of active members of the LDS faith, former members and non-members.

Our membership consists of individuals at different places in the coming-out process, as well as families, friends and allies. Our mission is to provide a safe space where LGBT individuals, as well as those questioning their orientation, can associate with like individuals, ask questions, and know that they are not alone. We help LGBTQ people reconcile with their spirituality within the context of a common Mormon background.




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