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John Dehlin, MormonStories.org and Faith Reconstruction

I've been a friend and supporter of John Dehlin for many years, and have the greatest respect for his personal integrity and work. I've watched John travel through a long path of challenging experiences, and grow intellectually, professionally and as a very kind and compassionate man into one that is even more so. I've watched him build an amazing body of work and help hundreds of people and build strong communities of people sharing the same challenges and beliefs, and also watch him struggle personally through his own journey in losing his faith in the Mormon Church and watch his efforts to try to rebuild that faith again. I hope that John keeps his interviews and large body of work on Mormonstories.org and finds great joy as he plans to return to full activity in the Mormon Church at this time.

I've just listened to John's “Faith Reconstruction” 3 part interview Listen Here . I can't recommend it more highly for anyone whether you are in the church or out. John is so sincere, and forthright telling his deeply personal experience in leaving and coming back into the Church and many of his reasoning and challenges in doing so, you feel as if you are walking with him on certain points of the trail of his journey. Of all the many "Mormon Stories" there, John's own story is one of the very most interesting!

To honor John's work we would like to share with you his study that he mentions in part one of his Faith Reconstruction interview here:

Survey Results: Understanding Mormon Disbelief: Why do some Mormons lose their testimony and what happens to them when they do.

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Supporting LGBT Family & Friends

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Sally Field received the 2012 Human Rights Campaign Ally For Equality Award, and delivered a very touching and emotional speech about her gay son Sam below. 


This is no performance, and Sally is not reading a script. This is her real life and her true feelings and thoughts. She had not addressed her son’s sexuality before in public stating that she felt it was his business and not hers to do so.  Through this speech Sally provides an example and understanding in supporting members of the LGBT community that we wish every parent and friend had.

Sam said of his mom “Being gay was just one more thing she loved about me.”

We hope that these words will long be remembered and shared and that our society will grow to understand, love and accept all the differences that make up our great, diverse and wonderful world.

 ”There are so many children who struggle to understand and embrace their sexuality in families who do not welcome them, with parents that somehow find it acceptable to shut them out their hearts and their homes, and that I find unacceptable.”—Sally Field

Supporting LGBT Family & Friends

Sally Field received the 2012 Human Rights Campaign Ally For Equality Award, and delivered a very touching and emotional speech about her gay son Sam below. 


This is no performance, and Sally is not reading a script. This is her real life and her true feelings and thoughts. She had not addressed her son’s sexuality before in public stating that she felt it was his business and not hers to do so.  Through this speech Sally provides an example and understanding in supporting members of the LGBT community that we wish every parent and friend had.

Sam said of his mom “Being gay was just one more thing she loved about me.”

We hope that these words will long be remembered and shared and that our society will grow to understand, love and accept all the differences that make up our great, diverse and wonderful world.

 ”There are so many children who struggle to understand and embrace their sexuality in families who do not welcome them, with parents that somehow find it acceptable to shut them out their hearts and their homes, and that I find unacceptable.”—Sally Field
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Holiday Emotional First Aid Kit

It’s that time of year again. Pack up your patio furniture and pool toys and make room for turkeys and tinsel, cranberries and candy canes. For many of us this is a joyous time of year where we gather with loved ones around tables, trees, pianos and fireplaces to feast, unwrap, sing and celebrate. For others of us, gathering with loved ones is highly stressful and emotionally and mentally draining. For those in the second category, I thought I'd put together a little holiday gift – an Emotional First Aid Kit to help better navigate the season that sends far too many of us flying over the cuckoo's nest.

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Abuse Defined

 

For those of us raised in Mormon homes, many of us women maybe even some men believed that unless there was severe physical abuse or infidelity, we were in the wrong to ever seek a separation or divorce. Temple marriage vows are made for “Time & Eternity” and “temple divorces” were given only in rare occasions by General Authorities of the Church when these extreme circumstances were proved, while a “temporal or legal divorce” is common and easy to obtain”. Many of us that have long been divorced 20 30 years or more are still married or “sealed” in the eyes and records of the Church. We have also been led to believe we have failed if we have divorced.

This wheel clearly indicates that there are all types of destructive abuse far beyond what was taught us growing up in the Church, and that if you or anyone you know is experiencing them, then there is great cause for concern, therapy, and change.

If conditions cannot be improved, and lasting changes made, then often many relationships should be ended rather than endured.

It takes great courage for anyone to face the loss of an important relationship, sometimes even more courage than tolerating bad treatment. Only a woman or man can know for themselves if the degree that they experience is beyond correction and does not contribute to a satisfying relationship and healthy home life. We hope that those struggling with such abuse will not feel trapped or obligated by religious beliefs or advice of leaders to stay in any unhealthy relationship that involves the types of abuses mentioned in this diagram.

Reporting Child Abuse

 ”Every adult in this story failed the child because they didn’t go to police. Rather, they went to their church.”—Marci Hamilton

“As a culture, we are slow to react to evidence of child sex abuse. We worry about tarring the reputation of adults far more than we do about early intervention when a child is in trouble. It takes a whole culture for children to be sexually and physically abused — adults to do it and others to take no action when they suspect what is happening.”—Marci Hamilton

National Hotline Crisis Counselors Available 24/7 The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) See their great website at http://www.childhelp.org

Family Acceptance Project LDS Brochure   The Family Acceptance Project™ is the only community research, intervention, education and policy initiative that works to decrease major health and related risks for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) youth, such as suicide, substance abuse, HIV and homelessness – in the context of their families. We use a research-based, culturally grounded approach to help ethnically, socially and religiously diverse families decrease rejection and increase support for their LGBT children.

Legal links and Reading:

Martha Beck’s Leaving the Saints discusses her early childhood Mormon ritualistic sexual abuse and Richard Bushman’s (active LDS Church Patriarch) biography of Joseph Smith discusses his thirty plus multiple wives and teenage brides:

Holiday Emotional First Aid Kit

Holiday Emotional First Aid Kit

It’s that time of year again. Pack up your patio furniture and pool toys and make room for turkeys and [...]

Abuse Defined

Abuse Defined

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LDSApology Broadening its Focus

Originally founded in 2009 to support the LGBT community, is broadening its focus to include other forms of abuse that [...]

Reporting Child Abuse

 ”Every adult in this story failed the child because they didn’t go to police. Rather, they went to their church.”—Marci Hamilton “As [...]